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To My Undefined Valentine

To My Undefined Valentine

Not exactly a defining value of millennials—owing the “free love” revolution to the folks back in the 60s—but we certainly got the science of bedroom buddy-ship down to an art.

Maybe they’re the ex you’re weaning off of, or that guy who’s always waiting for you at your favorite bar, your sexy shoulder to cry on or that person you can’t even stand but just can’t keep your hands off of. Those dependable, lovable people you don’t want to love or depend on.

Nothing can fill you with quite the same cock in your walk as the “no strings attached”, safe-bet sexual partner.

But even though more and more of us are finding ourselves in these rocky relationships, we’re all still waiting for that magical, crazy li’l thing called Love that’s still the trump card.

But don’t it make you feel modern!

We’ve pushed the love-marriage-baby carriage norm out and welcomed philandery whole heartedly.

Hollywood has already tried to capitalize on this streak with trite like No Strings Attached and Friends with Benefits.




Of course, those movies end predictably enough, with all these easy-breezy couples ending up in traditional monogamous relationships before the credits roll, which does no justice to the beauty of these relationships.

More often than not, even if a pair starts off finding sexual satisfaction in each other (“only when I’m drunk/lonely/just in the neighborhood”), their hormones and neurons will conspire against them and someone gets jealous or hurt and walks out the door.

That’s where the serenity lies; this person taught you something about yourself, broadened your horizons, gave great head and even made you laugh and now you can let them go without all the heartbreak .

Traditional dating is the exciting gradual discovery of another person; their name, then their major, their dreams, their past and, eventually, their genitals.

In the subtle and mysterious ways of the “just friends”, that persons sense of humor, their taste in movies, their laugh, their smell are all already familiar and favored, the occasional snogging session more of a token of your appreciation of their awesomeness. And that’s beautiful!

So this Valentine’s day, be ye “facebook official” or just figuring yourselves out, go out and treat whoever it is in your life who’s nice enough to use their hands on you from time to time.

For those of you sexing it up in the scandalous absence of any labels, keep it fun this Friday.

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